How to Hear Your Intuition When Needing To Make a Difficult Decision
Right now, I'm supposed to be on a trip to Glastonbury, England with a group of friends - a trip I planned - but at the last minute I decided to not board the plane. Truth is, though I was excited for the trip, I had a lot of signs that I shouldn’t go. I didn’t know why, so I tried to push through, going back and forth and not knowing what I should do.
Normally I'm great at decisions.
I have a lot of Aries in my chart, so I rarely overthink and when I make a decision, I rarely look back in regret for the decision I made. I'm also highly intuitive and have deep trust for my intuition and the clear channel I have to my gut.
But this time was different, because this time I couldn't hear it, and for a while felt purposefully disconnected. Which felt awful, because I had a huge decision to make and no idea how I was going to make it. But I did, because in the end I decided not to go and incase you too are up against a wall, here are a few tips and insights to help you realign with your intuition and decide your next move:
LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
Leading up the trip my body started acting funny, especially my skin. My face broke out and I got sick. I also didn't want to pack, make plans, call for travel insurance, or do anything related to getting on a plane and leaving. Everything about the trip felt heavy to me - and to top it all off, I chipped a tooth and got a cavity, which represents acting out of personal integrity.
My body was talking to me, but I wasn't listening.
I just kept pushing through what it was saying, not wanting to face (skin breaking out) the fact that I wasn't going.
If you're having to face a decision, what might your body be trying to say to you by the way it is acting? Notice its behaviours and become conscious to the symbolism. Our bodies are conscious before we are and can give great clues into what we need to be doing.
Put a hand on your heart
When we need to make decisions, there are three voices that will speak to us. The ego, the mind and the heart. The ego voice is loud because it's governed by the lower chakras, a masculine energy that is full of power and grit. That's why we WANT what we want and why we’ll power through to go after it. The mind is programmed and its voice is rarely our own thoughts.
The heart’s wisdom is quiet and comes directly from your higher self.
When it comes to making good decisions it’s important to create space for all voices to speak up - because good decisions are balanced. They involve all parts of us.
As I sat deciding if I would get on my final flight I put my hand on my heart and let the shoulds, coulds and what ifs of the ego and mind fall away so I could hear, "not yet."
Understand Negative ENERGIEs
I don't often talk about my experiences with the shadow because I am much more comfortable in the light, but anyone on this journey knows we live in a world of BOTH; an energy that wants to uplift us and an energy that wants to push us down and keep us stuck. One of the ways the more negative energy gets to us is by making us confused, and one of the ways that helped me see through the fog was by consciously clearing myself.
Learning to clear your energy is a part of my work, so I won’t share tools in this post, however if you too are
highly sensitive to energies, I talk about how to clear your energy in-depth in this course for empaths.
learn about UPPER LIMITING
From birth to death we are programmed to feel unworthy. Through the media, school systems, even health care. There is so much out there designed to keep us from knowing our worth, so when things start to work out for us, our subconscious freaks out. I teach this in the Empowered Empath but the just of it is that our subconscious has a limit on how much good it feels worthy of experiencing, and when we reach that point we will sabotage ourselves so that we don’t experience anymore. A very good example of this is fighting with your partner right before a concert you were really excited about - you fought with him unconsciously because there is a part of you that feels unworthy about having fun. The fight guarantees you’ll either go to the concert mad or not go at all, keeping you from the enjoyment because it goes against what you believe you are worthy of. Self-sabotage takes many forms, like fighting, but can also include procrastination, tiredness AND indecision so it’s really helpful to know about, because think about it: if you can’t decide you won’t get something you really want, so indecision is a great way to keep yourself suck.
In this podcast episode I share how I personally self-sabotage and how you will know if you are too.
heal your leaky gut
Another reason for indecision, especially in empaths is a weak Solar Plexus; the chakra located just above the belly button that governs worth and our will to act. It's our intuition and our most direct channel of guidance in this lifetime because it tells us what is and is not ours. The Solar Plexus is also where we take on everyone else's emotions as feeling beings, so it can get confused on what's ours and what isn't if we don't work to nurture it.
If you're having to face a decision, breathe deeply into your Solar Plexus and breathe out any external emotions you may be carrying. This will make you a clearer channel to hear what YOUR soul is saying.
Ground yourself
Big decisions usually happen under pressure, be that in time, energy or something else that makes us feel chaotic. And reality is, no good decisions come from a place of chaos. My Dad taught me this many years ago, but before you do anything life changing it's important to have a real meal, have a good sleep and be in a grounded place. Which is why after I un-boarded my first flight I booked myself into a hotel to sleep before deciding anything more. I also made sure to eat a good meal, because a decision made from depletion would have been depleting; a decision made from a steady space would be much more likely to be authentic to my inner being.
If you're having to face a decision, first ground your energy. Write a list of pros and cons, walk barefoot on the grass, eat something nourishing, have a deserved nap. This will help your mind, body and spirit to decide from a grounded place - and ensure you aren't making decisions from an energy of chaos.
know THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG
Something I have witnessed again and again is that things always work out. We have entire teams working with us both here on the earth plane and in the non-physical. After I made the decision not to go to Glastonbury one of the girls I was supposed to meet messaged me to tell me that her and the other three who were gathering realized they were Air, Earth, Water and Fire. And as she told me I saw all four of them around a cauldron many years ago. It was validation that my role wasn't to be there, it was to gather them together like they had been many lifetimes ago, because in this life I was the channel for them to meet each other.
If you're struggling with a decision remember it's impossible to get off track. We have guides that will reroute us, always. They are like a GPS; they can see what's ahead of us and have the job of guiding us through this lifetime. Even if at times, that's backwards. Trust this. It's okay to make mistakes and rework things, because there are no mistakes.
Things are always happening as they are meant to.
All in all, I'm happy with the decision I made. That's not to say it was easy; I did a lot of grieving. I wrote a lot of poetry. I sat in shock for a while rethinking things. But the decision is made and I'm excited to go forward with full knowing it was the right decision for me, regardless of what others might say or think.
Deciding to go or stay, fight or give up, act or not is part of what makes this experience beautiful. It forces us to trust ourselves and gives us reason to reconnect with our guidance if we've been shutting it out.
x
Robin
If you’re new to my work:
I'm Robin —
The diarist behind the Diary of an Empath and creator of the Empowered Empath, a six week course for learning to manage your energy, build self-trust and boundaries, and move through the wounds that hold you back from feeling confident in living your calling. I’d love to get to know more about you, so if you’re on Instagram, come say hello!