Self worth, and choosing it even when it’s difficult

I don’t know if it’s our current astrology, or the fact that we are at the start of a new month before a new year, but something on my mind lately is the idea of self worth.

And how having worth is a choice we make, in each and every moment.

Especially in those that feel most blurry.

Moments where we aren’t sure of our responsibilities; when the empath in us knows what another needs and also that we aren’t meant to fix anybody. Moments when we see our own part in an argument or falling out and want to take accountability because we always have, and being the one to apologize would be easiest on everyone involved. Dis-including us, but we’re tough and are used to being the one to carry what others won’t. Moments where being responsible is our default response. Moments when everything in us tells us it’s our job to be another’s support, even if being so hurts so much and leaves us left out.

Moments when our identity is so emeshed in helping that we don’t know how to be anything else. Who are we if we aren’t kind and considerate?

Those moments are the moments when we need to choose our worth, most. Those are the moments where we have to make a choice to stand for what we deserve.

Which is love. And to be loved. And to be in relationships and partnerships and situations that reciprocate all we give. And have within our hearts.

It’s those moments where we need to take responsibility for our role and then cut cords and allow another to be responsible for theirs. To affirm that we matter and decide to not settle for damaging behaviour. To believe in others from afar knowing that we can’t heal anyone who doesn’t want to be accountable.

That’s self worth.

Choosing that we matter too, and being okay with the discomfort that comes with deciding to let go of anything that affirms we don’t.

x

Robin

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